After two failed IUI's & a struggling marriage, we have decided to take the month of January off from TTC. There are a number of reasons & although it was by far one of the toughest decisions ever, I know it was what God wanted from us. As I'm sure many of you have experienced, RPL plays quite a number on an otherwise healthy marriage. In 3 short months we got pregnant, moved, hubby started working in a new region, we went through 6 weeks of ultrasound hell, lost the baby, found a new specialist & started TTC again. Needless to say, this has caused quite a bit of stress. So during our month off we are reading the Ministry of Marriage together & doing a computer/phone counseling course with our old Pastor back home (love & miss that guy!). Although it has only been about 2 weeks, I already see how much it has done for our relationship. I am extremely impressed with my husband & the dedication & hard work he is showing. We've definitely lost sight of what's important & are working at making Christ the center of our lives again.
In addition to working on our marriage, there were also a few other reasons we thought taking the month off was a good idea. After 2 months at the new fertility center we decided that it really just wasn't for us. Back on LI, we had such an amazing Dr who took time out & was always available to discuss things. At this new place I saw my Dr for the consult & a sono. So twice within about 12 visits. And to top it off, of the 10 remaining appts, I have never seen the same person twice. If I ask to switch something or want to try a different approach the nurse always makes me feel like I'm some kind of loony for wanting a say in my own medical care. And then of course there is the issue with being treated like a leper for having a daughter & being told that she isn't welcome. So with all of this in mind we are going for a consult at a new clinic on the 30th. It is a fertility & wellness center that does acupuncture on site. Right up my alley!! So ladies please pray that we like this place. I really feel like God is leading us there.
So I am on CD 9 & using this time to test whether or not I'm ovulating since the miscarriage. I would always get a positive OPK around CD13-14 but haven't & took the ovidrel (hcg) shot each IUI, so never got to see if I even would ovulate on my own. I am praying that I do as that was one thing my body always did correctly.
And in completely random fun news my BFF (co maid of honor) is marrying one of hubby's BFF's (a groomsman in our wedding) in Puerto Rico in March & we are going for 5 days!!! My SIL (the one with trips & a bonus baby) offered to watch Adelyn (I know she's either a saint or just plain nuts)!!! It will be our first time away from her but as hard as it will be, I'm sure we will have a blast!!!!
In addition to working on our marriage, there were also a few other reasons we thought taking the month off was a good idea. After 2 months at the new fertility center we decided that it really just wasn't for us. Back on LI, we had such an amazing Dr who took time out & was always available to discuss things. At this new place I saw my Dr for the consult & a sono. So twice within about 12 visits. And to top it off, of the 10 remaining appts, I have never seen the same person twice. If I ask to switch something or want to try a different approach the nurse always makes me feel like I'm some kind of loony for wanting a say in my own medical care. And then of course there is the issue with being treated like a leper for having a daughter & being told that she isn't welcome. So with all of this in mind we are going for a consult at a new clinic on the 30th. It is a fertility & wellness center that does acupuncture on site. Right up my alley!! So ladies please pray that we like this place. I really feel like God is leading us there.
So I am on CD 9 & using this time to test whether or not I'm ovulating since the miscarriage. I would always get a positive OPK around CD13-14 but haven't & took the ovidrel (hcg) shot each IUI, so never got to see if I even would ovulate on my own. I am praying that I do as that was one thing my body always did correctly.
And in completely random fun news my BFF (co maid of honor) is marrying one of hubby's BFF's (a groomsman in our wedding) in Puerto Rico in March & we are going for 5 days!!! My SIL (the one with trips & a bonus baby) offered to watch Adelyn (I know she's either a saint or just plain nuts)!!! It will be our first time away from her but as hard as it will be, I'm sure we will have a blast!!!!
5 comments:
Jess said...
It is so hard agreeing to step back and take a break. One thing we struggle with too is making God the center of our lives. Being a year and a half into ttc with 4 early losses under our belts has definitely put a wedge between us and God. Proud of you and your DH for making the step in the right direction. You both are in my thoughts and prayers!
Laura said...
I am really, really proud of you for taking the month off. I've been praying for patience and the right timing for you; because I have to admit, it seemed like you were rushing a bit (I get it--I feel the same way). But I really pray that this month can be a time of renewal for your whole family. (I'm about to post as to why we're "taking this month off" as well).
Nat said...
It sounds like taking a break is a good decision. A happy marriage is so important.
I hope your new doctor works out for you. Congrats to your BFF and I'm jealous of your trip!! That sounds like so much fun! :)
CeCe said...
Sister, I hear you on all fronts again. Sounds like a good idea to take a month off, reevaluate the RE, and most importantly focus on the 2 of you. TTC/Fertility treatments + baby loss puts a huge strain on a relationship.. I am starting to recognize the big toll it is taking on my marriage. We are on a break from it all too.
Enjoy your vacation!!!
Andrea said...
Sweetest Dawn,
I think of you so often and pray for you always, as this road is a hard one to continue traveling. Yes, loss does create stress on a marriage, as does a new job and moving...it can all just be too much and I'm sorry you are experiencing these growing pains. However, they are just that "growing pains" and you will find that the two of you grow from these experiences. We too are experiencing some of the same so my heart goes out to you. It AIN'T EASY.
I'm with you on changing clinics. Our clinic here is wonderul and our Dr is so compassionate and kind. I don't know what I would do if we could no longer go there. Go with your gut and try the new clinic and I pray for much success.
Sending hugs and prayers
xxx